FU Cancer

  FUCK YOU CANCER!!! That is what I say to it. For those who don’t know Cancer is no joke in my family. You would think we are in a competition of the family with the most people affected. When we think we are clear of it, someone else gets sick. Right Now my cousin is fighting the battle. In my family we say fuck you Cancer every time. We are fighters and winners. So I know that she will make it without a doubt in my mind. I want her to know that. I want her to believe it and not worry. I want to help her be strong. I am not asking for anyone to give anything but the times it takes to read this and about 5 minutes more.

  I want to tell you a little about my family. First off we are a huge family and we are close. We are each other’s friends on facebook; we chat and joke with each other on there. We fight with each other and have no problem telling someone where to shove it. When we get together it is a party that anyone around will hear about and no one will forget. We cheer each other on when someone is down, give reality checks when someone is acting a fool. GG (great grandma, but known as grandma to me and mom to others) is where it all comes together. If anything is happening ask her she has the 411, the DL, the dish, the news, the family gossip… ok she doesn’t gossip not about her family, the point is the GG is like the Don of our mob family (good news is she has yet to put a hit out on anyone). She knows what is going on in her family of warriors. Good or bad she supports every one of us and loves us all. We are a wonderful mix of everything from big to small, white to red skin, straight to gay, young to old, carnivore to vegetarian. You name it we have it in our family. You think I am making this up, don’t you? Well ask around you will be surprised. What I love most about my family is that everyone is welcome. You don’t have to be blood to become family. All we ask is for the same love and respect that we show you.

  I had to tell you about my family so you understand why I am writing this and asking for your support and time right now. We don’t ask people for much if anything. We believe in something, be it god and/or the great spirits. But I am asking you now to help me. My cousin has cancer in her lung. It is called Adenoid carcinoma. 90% of the people who get it get it from smoking. Lucky for my cousin she never smoked a day in her life. Unlucky for her she is that 10% that get it without smoking. (Good reason to quit smoking) The good news is that at this time the cancer has not spread and they think they got it early enough that they can get rid of it with surgery. Her surgery has been scheduled for August 23. Here is that hard part. She is scared as anyone would be. She is going to lose part of her lung to a cancer that should have just minded its own business and stayed away. With every surgery comes a risk of something worst. Now do I or anyone in my family believe that is will happen? NO. But I need you help to help my cousin believe and give my cousin the strength to hold her head high as she goes through this. Let her know that she is not alone in this world and that people love her and she is a beautiful person who just had a crappy day and that is it. From here on out nothing but sun shine!

  So could you please pass this to your friends and spread the word. Please go to light a candle (click here), and light a candle for her you don’t have to say anything or you can give her words for strength as I said it is only time that I am asking for it will take you less time than it took you to read this. If you would like you can post something on here. I promise I will get your words to her. She needs it from now until after her surgery. I will keep you up to date on how it goes.

  Thank you! And don't forget to say FU CANCER!!!!!



Just Stop

  *BE WARNED THIS IS A RANT THAT IS NOT TO ANY ONE PERSON. SOME WHO READ THIS MAY GET UPSET AND DEFEND THEIR REASONING. THAT IS GREAT AND I WELCOME IT ALL JUST KNOW THIS IS A PERSONAL OPINION THAT IS NOT FOR JUST ANY ONE PERSON. THERE IS SWEARING...*

  I am tired of hearing the same old line from military wives. "We are broke." First get a fucking Job!!! Oh jobs are hard to find. Work at McDonald's! Second Stop having fucking Kids!! Don't like condoms or taking the pill, then get fixed!!  Third Stop spending Your Husbands money!!! You need shit around the house? well you don't need the new TV or Cloths you just bought.

  I am sorry I just had to get that out. There are women out there that all I here is "We are broke." Well I am sorry dear but you are married to a soldier. They don't make millions. I laugh at these women because while they are bitching they are making more mouths to feed on the same paycheck or going out and spending money that they don't have.  There are 3 reasons you are broke: You don't want to get a job, you keep making more babies, and/ or you spend all of your money on stuff you don't need. And I am going to break these down for you on why you are broke.

  1. You don't want to get a job. I am sure there are many wives out there that have one reason or another for not going out and getting a job. But most are bullshit. You don't have a job, because you don't want one plain and simple. You can find a job it may not be what you want but everyone starts at the bottom. Yes you don't have daycare for your kids. Kids falls under both job and making babies. Seeing as you already have the kids why don't you take the time and start a daycare or find another stay at home lazy military wife maybe she will watch your kids for cheap. My favorite one is I move all the time, no one will hire me. moving all the time for me has worked out great. Every job gave me that little extra for the next place where I find a better paying job. They will hire you just have to work at it. I feel for you to a point I get that jobs are hard to find. Every job I get I have to worry about not having a job in a couple of months. But life sucks, suck it up and drive on.

  2. You keep having kids. I have an idea. Plan a little better. Take the pill and have your husband wear a condom. Don't like or can't remember to do that OK then how about one of you get fixed. That way you don't have to worry about. I get that accidents happen but when they do, you need to plan that you just got one more mouth to feed and so you have to spend your money differently. And just because you have a kid or are pregnant does not mean that you can not have a job. Women do it all the time. Some even do it as a single mom with out a man to help them. So forgive me if I don't lend my shoulder out to you to cry on or that I don't just right you a check for what ever it is that you wish you could have. You chose to have the child. You need to support it.

  3. You spend money you don't have. You my dear don't have a job. So why are you going out shopping and buying that $100 dress? Or that $1000 TV? The $2000 couch when you old one still works? Really I want to know. You don't need it. If the old is working why did you spend money on a new one when you are BROKE. Remember you are the one bitching at me that you are broke and then going out and spending money that you don't have. SAVE your husbands money, remember you don't have a job so maybe just maybe you should think about the next thing you buy. Ask yourself: Do we really NEED it? Can I get it cheaper somewhere else? Just because you see it and want it does not mean you need it. I have wanted a new flat screen TV for a year now to replace the heavy box that we have now. I still don't have it. Why? We are waiting for it to go on sale and if we have the money when it is on sale we will get it. But we don't need it so we wait until the right time comes.

  My Fiancee and I have 2 kids that we send to daycare before and after school, we have 2 mortgages that we have to pay while we try and sell one house, and regular bills to pay. I still have money left over. Why? Because we save where we can, we live in the means of what we make. We still make time for fun things and nights out. And we each have a job. It wasn't always like this. We have lived just off of his income. And we didn't spend money when we didn't have to. I am big on buying on sale or on craigslist.com and thrift stores. We manage to furnish our whole house with everything we needed for under $3000. 3 complete bedrooms, a full kitchen and dining room, Living room, and 2 bathrooms. And if you seen my stuff you would think I bought it new. It isn't but either way I don't care. I don't try to keep up with the Jones I have better things to do.

  Do what you are going to do. I just had to get that out there and at least ask you to stop. Please let me know what you think. If I am wrong on what I have said I would love to hear why. I am open to understanding you train of thought.

Always on the move.

 As I sit at my desk writing this I am excited to say I made a new friend. It is someone who is moving to the area. As a soldiers wife, girl friend, or Fiance we are always on the move. Which means that I am only in a place long enough to make friends but not to have as a close friend. Well maybe I am saying this wrong. The words are hard to put together. I make friends all over the place. But when you move from one place to another it can be a little hard at first. I have to first get my family settled. Once that happens I have to then start to work on finding places to meet people. I am a picky person which also makes finding new friends difficult.
 When I say I am a picky person, it is hard to say to what level. I love meeting new people. I do not judge a book by its cover. I believe in giving everyone a chance. I am picky is a sense of where I find friends and the friends I keep. I am not an all chatty person. I try not to bitch and moan about my life too much I know everyone needs an outlet. But What I don't get is why the world always has to be falling apart for some people. And those are the ones I tend to stay away from. With that being said it seems that when I move from base to base, post to post I find that most of the women that I run into act as if that world is falling apart.
 I am a positive person. I try to find the good out of everything. Every time I move I look for the bright side of the rainbow. I have made life long friends at the places I have been and I get to see the world. I have 2 smart and wonderful kids who may not be my in blood but are mine in heart. I have a man who will do anything to make me laugh and keep me happy and knows that I would never ask for anything against his morals.
 Always being on the move keeps me active and on my toes. It opens new doors that have created a life for me that not may people get to live and enjoy. I have found that for me to be successful in my life I had to be willing to go outside of my comfort zone. With Every move I make I have had great success in both my career and in my life. I could not ask for more when it comes down to it. OK I guess I could ask to be more stable in my job and to have a better idea of what is coming next. But to be honest right now I am having fun with the undecided and unknown part of life. I have a plan, kinda like a dream, but I keep an open mind about it and know that when it is all said and done, I will be where I want to be when the time comes.
 I am young and still have a lot of life left in me. As an Army spouse we have to keep an open mind. If you close it you might miss the best part of living. If not today then when?

"All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Being an Army Spouse isn't for everyone.

It is hard to explain how this works. It seems to me there are 2 types of women that marry Army men. They either support their husbands to the end of the world or they are bat shit crazy. There is no real middle ground. I support my fiance and his career every step of the way. I may not like everything that we have to do for the Army, but at the end of the day I have to know and understand that it was something he chose to do for both himself and for our family.

The army isn't out to get us and they don't just sit around trying to figure out how to screw us over. I guess I can say that the army has been good to us. I know it has not been great for everyone. But for those who keep finding some way to bitch about how they hate the army and how it keeps them away form their husband and family. I am not that person. Yes I dislike that I am not by my family and when my fiance was deployed it was difficult. But he is doing something for me and my family that so many people are scared to do. He is also willing to give his life not only for me but for you and yours. It is a life choice. No one told him that he had to do any of this. It is one of the few great thing about being American. You have a choice with everything you do and a Government that will not force you otherwise.

I am opinionated and out spoken and sometimes really blunt. I hurt peoples feelings and often offend people. All I ask is Please have a thick skin when reading my blogs. I have a right to my opinion as do you and when commenting on anything I write on here know that I am open minded and love conversation. I like to know how others feel so that I may be able to understand another side better. Also know that I have never done this before and wanted to try it out.

This is my blog about being a veteran of the Army and my journey as an Army Wife, a government Contractor, a step mother and life in general. I have named myself Barefoot in the Army because that is the way I like to be and my way of living life in the Army.